FRIENDLINESS

Tonight we discussed:
Friendship and friendliness
Two types of friendship
Relationships and relating.
Love as a state of being.

Friendship implies a dependence on another person. It also has a limited feeling because usually we are only in friendship with a few people. Friendliness, on the other hand, is vast. It is a quality inside of us and is not dependent on one particular person. Friendliness is your love shared unconditionally with the whole of existence. Friendship and friendliness do not mean the same thing. Friendship, at any moment can become it’s opposite – the friend can turn into an enemy. But friendliness has no particular address – it is for everybody. It can never turn into it’s opposite. Friendliness is your very nature.

There are two types of friendship. One is friendship in which you are a beggar – you need something from the other person to help your loneliness. And the other person is also a beggar – he wants something from you. So the begging is multiplied. The other kind of friendship, the other kind of love, has a totally different quality. It is not of need, it is of sharing. You give out of your fullness. And the more you Share, the more you give, the more you have.

The word love can have two different meanings. One meaning is love as relationship; the other meaning is love as a state of being. Love in a relationship can turn into hate – and then hate is also a relationship. Love as a state of being is a totally different word. It means you are simply loving; you are not creating a relationship out of it. It simply shares. And in sharing also there is no desire for any reward. The sharing itself is the reward. Then it carries something of the divine.

Love and blessings,

Pragito